Frasi di Chi­ma­man­da Ngo­zi Adi­chie

“L'unica ragione per cui dici che la razza non è un problema è perché vorresti che non lo fosse. Tutti lo vorremmo, ma è falso. Vengo da un paese in cui la razza non è un problema; non mi sono mai pensata nera e lo sono diventata solo al mio arrivo in America. Se sei nero in America e ti innamori di un bianco, la razza non è un problema finché siete da soli, perché siete solo voi e il vostro amore. Ma appena esci fuori la razza ha importanza eccome. Ma noi non ne parliamo. Non le diciamo nemmeno ai nostri partner bianchi, le piccole cose che ci fanno incazzare e quelle che vorremmo capissero meglio, perché abbiamo paura che ci rispondano che stiamo esagerando, o che siamo troppo sensibili. E non vogliamo che ci dicano: «Guarda quanti progressi abbiamo fatto, solo quarant'anni fa sarebbe stato illegale perfino essere una coppia, e bla bla bla», perché sai cosa pensiamo quando lo dicono? Pensiamo: « Ma perché cazzo avrebbe dovuto essere illegale, in fondo?» Ma non diciamo nulla del genere. Accumuliamo tutto dentro la testa e quando veniamo a simpatiche feste progressiste come questa, diciamo che la razza non è un problema perché è quello che ci si aspetta da noi, per far stare meglio i nostri simpatici amici progressisti. È la verità. Lo dico per esperienza.”

“Provò con Facebook. Kosi era attiva su Facebook, metteva foto su foto e si teneva in contatto con tantissima gente, ma lui aveva cancellato l'account diverso tempo prima. All'inizio era entusiasta di Facebook, fantasmi di vecchi amici che si materializzavano con tanto di mogli e mariti e figli, e foto con la loro brava scia di commenti. Ma prese a sgomentarsi per l'aria di irrealtà, l'abile manipolazione delle immagini per creare una vita parallela, foto che le persone scattavano avendo solo Facebook in mente, fatte sullo sfondo di ciò di cui andavano fiere. Adesso aveva riattivato l'account in cerca di Ifemelu, ma lei non aveva un profilo. Forse era disincantata verso Facebook quanto lo era lui.”

“Alexa, e gli altri ospiti, e forse anche Georgina, capivano tutti la fuga dalla guerra, dal tipo di povertà che distruggeva l'animo umano, ma non avrebbero capito il bisogno di scappare dall'opprimente letargia dell'assenza di scelta. Non avrebbero capito perché persone come lui, cresciute con cibo e acqua abbondanti ma impantanate nell'insoddisfazione, abituate fin dalla nascita a guardare altrove, da sempre convinte che la vita vera fosse altrove, ora fossero decise a fare cose pericolose, illegali, come partire; nessuno di loro moriva di fame, o subiva violenze, o veniva da villaggi bruciati, ma aveva semplicemente sete di scelte, di certezze.”

“La guerra del Biafra mi ossessiona da quando ero bambina: i miei nonni sono morti durante il conflitto, e in particolare la figura di mio nonno paterno, che ho conosciuto attraverso le parole di mio padre, mi coinvolge e mi emoziona.”

“I continui riferimenti alla tradizione orale, quando si parla di autori africani, mi infastidiscono. Sono frutto di una visione romanticizzata della nostra letteratura.”

“Racism should never have happened and so you don't get a cookie for reducing it.”

“Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in.”

“That her relationship with him was like being content in a house but always sitting by the window and looking out”

“Maybe it’s time to just scrap the word “racist.” Find something new. Like Racial Disorder Syndrome. And we could have different categories for sufferers of this syndrome: mild, medium, and acute.”

“The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is not that they are untrue, but that they are incomplete. They make one story become the only story.”

“The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations.”

“Culture does not make people. People make culture. If it is true that the full humanity of women is not our culture, then we can and must make it our culture.”

“Race doesn't really exist for you because it has never been a barrier. Black folks don't have that choice.”

“Dear Non-American Black, when you make the choice to come to America, you become black. Stop arguing. Stop saying I'm Jamaican or I'm Ghanaian. America doesn't care.”

“Then she wished, more rationally, that she could love him without needing him. Need gave him power without his trying; need was the choicelessness she often felt around him.”

“How easy it was to lie to strangers, to create with strangers the versions of our lives we imagined.”

“Relaxing your hair is like being in prison. You're caged in. Your hair rules you. You didn't go running with Curt today because you don't want to sweat out this straightness. You're always battling to make your hair do what it wasn't meant to do.”

“… there was cement in her soul. It had been there for a while, an early morning disease of fatigue, shapeless desires, brief imaginary glints of other lives she could be living, that over the months melded into a piercing homesickness.”

“The late Kenyan Nobel peace laureate Wangari Maathai put it simply and well when she said, the higher you go, the fewer women there are.”

“A world of happier men and happier women who are truer to themselves. And this is how to start: We must raise our daughters differently. We must also raise our sons differently.”

“Greatness depends on where you are coming from.”

“She had always liked this image of herself as too much trouble, as different, and she sometimes thought of it as a carapace that kept her safe.”

““ We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage.”

“I think you travel to search and you come back home to find yourself there.”

“You must never behave as if your life belongs to a man. Do you hear me?” Aunty Ifeka said. “Your life belongs to you and you alone.”

“This was love: a string of coincidences that gathered significance and became miracles.”

“Why did people ask "What is it about?" as if a novel had to be about only one thing.”

“I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femaleness and my femininity. And I want to be respected in all of my femaleness because I deserve to be.”

“Many stories matter. Stories have been used to dispossess and to malign. But stories can also be used to empower, and to humanize. Stories can break the dignity of a people. But stories can also repair that broken dignity.”

“There are some things that are so unforgivable that they make other things easily forgivable.”

“A woman at a certain age who is unmarried, our society teaches her to see it as a deep personal failure. And a man, after a certain age isn’t married, we just think he hasn’t come around to making his pick.”

“She rested her head against his and felt, for the first time, what she would often feel with him: a self-affection. He made her like herself.”

“My own definition is a feminist is a man or a woman who says, yes, there’s a problem with gender as it is today and we must fix it, we must do better. All of us, women and men, must do better.”

“You can't write a script in your mind and then force yourself to follow it. You have to let yourself be.”