Frasi di Teal Swan

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“Hell on Earth is a world where there are over 7 billion people and most of them feel completely alone.”

“It is tempting to think that the majority of relationships are functional and that dysfunctional relationships are the rarity. But the reverse is actually true. Most relationships between people on earth today fall somewhere on the scale of dysfunction.”

“Relationships are the central part of life and also the hardest part of life and yet our schools teach us a minimum of 13 years of math and science and geography and history, but nothing about relationships and how to make them work.”

“Relationships involve the inevitability of rupture. The degree of security and joy felt within a relationship is about our capacity to create repair.”

“To build a secure relationship, caretake the insecurity and unsafety of the other person in the relationship. And recognize when you feel insecure or unsafe in your relationship so that you can very quickly initiate re-establishing security and safety with the other person.”

“When you notice anger kick in, you must slow way down and attend to the vulnerability, the pain and the fear and the perceived powerlessness underneath it.”

“Just because you think something is normal, does not mean it is healthy, does not mean it is right and does not mean it is good.”

“Be workable all you can in a relationship, but do not compromise.”

“The worst thing you could ever do to someone from a position of authority is to turn them against themselves. The worst thing you could do is to make them believe that it is wrong to feel how they feel and so something must be wrong with them. It is not malice that makes 'therapists' do this. It is ignorance. But it is ignorance that must end. And I will dedicate myself to ending that ignorance for as long as I draw breath.”

“The most common reason that relationships fall apart is because of safety. On a subconscious level, even though our relationships grant us a sense of safety, if we perceive that something about a relationship makes us unsafe, we care more about our own safety than we care about the other person’s experience and we care more about our own safety than we care about the health of the relationship itself.”

“It is ironic that when the priority is personal safety, the world becomes a very dangerous world. It becomes a world in which everyone is doing things for their own individual best interests. It becomes a society of control, strategy and zero-sum games.”

“When you negate the negative that someone thinks or feels with the positive, you are denying them the authentic support they need to deal with what they are facing.”

“Water in general is very special because it holds memory. Whenever I go anywhere, I make it a point to drink the water there. The reason being that water holds an energetic vibration and a big part of that specific vibration is information. Drinking the water in a place is like downloading that vibration and that information… Information about the land and everything associated with it. It connects you immediately to where you are and to what happened there and to all those things that it encountered before you.”

“Compromise and workability are two very different things. Compromise undermines your values. It corrodes your life. It ruins relationships. Workability preserves your values. It enhances your life. And it strengthens relationships.”

“If the ultimate truth is that we are all one, because we are all made of the same conscious energy, there is no difference between loving yourself and loving something else, at the end of the day, every form of love is self-love.”

“If you do not keep your word, you will have demonstrated that you do not hold yourself to standards of conduct. You will have demonstrated that you care more about your own personal happiness and whims than you do about the pain of others. You will have demonstrated that you do not value your relationships and even that you do not value the people you are in a relationship with. You will have demonstrated yourself to be a person who lacks Integrity and honor. You will have demonstrated that you cannot be relied upon and that you cannot be trusted. You will be seen as an unsafe person. You will ruin the way that other people will see you, most especially you will lose their respect. And on the road to this ultimate loss, you will have created non-stop conflict in all of your relationships.”

“All life is the fragmenting of one collective soul.”

“Conscious interdependence is the way of the future.”

“The way forward is not independence. It is the mastery of relationship.”